We need to step away from labeling situation and people, "good" or "bad". Walking into anything with that kind of energy can set a false tone. No one is good or bad. We are all the same. Ask the Pope! Just because something causes you pain, doesn't mean its necessarily "bad". Things happen to show us what we need to see. Sometimes things or people we project in our minds as "bad" really weren't bad at all...perhaps they were a bridge to our next best thing...or at least better thing or healthier situation. Chances are at one point something you are labeling as bad made you feel really good at some crucial point too.
SAME with "good"...just because something makes you feel "good" right now doesn't mean it always will. You can almost guarantee it will not. Nothing is constant except for CHANGE.
Change is constant. Depend on that, not what you think is "good" or "bad".
People and situations enter your life for a reason. NO ONE is a victim. We are all the same. We make conscious choices every day...many times repeatedly...over and over. YOU choose YOUR path. be accountable for YOUR choices every day. Grow up, take responsibility and change what needs to be changed and move forward, Dwelling on the past is living in FEAR and serving you nothing except anxiety, self talk, and probably embarrassment.
Step away from labeling "good" or "bad"..."It's all good in the end, y'all!"